DEAR ABBY: I recently spent weeks caring for my mom in hospice. I was holding her hand when she took her last breath. I had announced to family and friends her choice to enter hospice. They knew her death was imminent. Being the last surviving child, it was up to me to arrange her funeral. Everyone, including my friends, asked me to keep them informed as to the service date and time.  As soon as I posted the funeral information, the excuses started rolling in. People I had considered close friends and family who supposedly loved my mother came up…