A woman has been urged to reconsider her relationship after her boyfriend ate all eight jalapeño poppers she had made as an appetizer.
The 21-year-old woman and original poster (OP), user ThrowRA_disneyadult, recounted the incident on Reddit, explaining that she had recently prepared dinner and eight jalapeño poppers for herself and her 22-year-old boyfriend of nearly two years.
“I was really looking forward to them because I haven’t had them in a while,” she noted.
As they sat down to watch a movie, she was still “getting settled” and hadn’t started eating yet when he finished all eight of the poppers.
“When I went to grab one, the plate was completely empty,” the OP wrote. “I didn’t get a single one.
“I asked why he didn’t leave me any, and he said, ‘You didn’t say you wanted any.’ I was kind of surprised because I made the whole meal for both of us, so I thought it was obvious they weren’t just for him.
“He said I’m overreacting because they’re ‘just snacks’ and he was hungry.
“I feel annoyed because 1) I took the time to make them, and 2) it didn’t even occur to him to leave me one.
“But now I’m wondering if I’m blowing this out of proportion or if this is a sign he can be inconsiderate sometimes.”
Reddit users overwhelmingly backed the OP, with many pushing back on what they viewed as not just inconsiderate behavior but emotional deflection.
“It is implied you wanted some. You cooked them,” wrote one. “If you didn’t want any, you would have said go ahead and eat them, I made them for you, they’re not my favorite…. (or something like that).
“I’d call him out on this one. Make sure he apologizes. Truly apologizes.”
‘THAT is what I’d dump him for’
Several users focused on how her boyfriend had handled being questioned.
One noted, “The actual problem, in my opinion, is that when you asked him about it, he turned it back around on you, acted like it was your fault because you hadn’t called dibs (who does that for a shared meal??), and said you’re overreacting.
“It’s emotionally immature that he couldn’t take accountability for a mistake as small as this. It illustrates his poor character. And THAT is what I’d dump him for.”
‘He felt so bad’
In an update, the OP explained that after the couple discussed the issue, she realized her boyfriend “honestly wasn’t trying to be rude” and had assumed the poppers were just for him, as she knows he loves them.
“As soon as he realized how much it hurt my feelings, he felt so bad and definitely made up for it,” she continued.
“That night, he went to the store, bought everything to make more, and gave me a whole plate before he touched any. The next day, he made another batch and made sure I got first pick.”
‘Not perfection, but repair’
Couple Forward’s Christian J. Charette, LMFT, told Newsweek, “What seems like a small issue—a partner eating all the jalapeño poppers—can actually offer a surprising window into the emotional maturity of a relationship.”
He explained, “Here, we saw something healthy. The boyfriend didn’t get defensive or dismissive. Once he realized how his actions impacted her, he shifted. He listened. He understood. And—crucially—he changed his behavior.
“He went to the store, made another batch, and made sure she got the first plate. He repeated that effort the next day, without prompting.
“That’s what emotional maturity looks like in action: not perfection, but repair.”
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