Scheana Shay’s husband, Brock Davies, is speaking out about what led to him having an affair while she was pregnant with their daughter.
During the Friday, July 25, episode of Shay’s “Scheananigans” podcast, Davies joined as a guest to answer burning questions about his infidelity, which his wife revealed in her memoir, My Good Side.
“I just didn’t know how to handle [becoming a dad again]. I didn’t know how to handle that at all. Inherently, I always deflected to the worst version of myself,” Davies, 34, explained. “I was scared of being a parent again. I believed what I read. I believed I was a bad dad.”
Shay, 40, suggested that Davies was “self-sabotaging” amid his estrangement from his older children, Winter and Eli, whom he shares with his ex-wife.
“That in itself was just an example of me just deflecting and being that version of myself, right?” Davies replied. “It wasn’t until years later that I actually thought about that. It’s not OK to even have that as a response because that was just me — again — blaming other reasons outside of facing it up to myself. So I apologize for even saying that.”
Shay took Bravo fans by surprise when she revealed in her memoir earlier this month that her now-husband cheated before the birth of their daughter, Summer, now 4. While speaking with Us Weekly in an exclusive cover story, Shay said that there were moments she felt unsure about going public with the affair.
“But I’d rather it come out in my words because, unfortunately, there was another person involved in this situation, and at any point in time, she could come forward,” she shared. “Had there been no kid or, honestly, had I found out when he did it … 100 percent, without a doubt, I would have left. I’ve always been a person who said, ‘If I’m ever cheated on, I would leave.’”
Davies, for his part, explained how being married to a public figure allowed him to be “held accountable” for his mistakes. “If anything, it’s probably made me a better version of myself because it’s really forced me to hold myself to that standard of being a better person,” he continued on Friday, adding that without the accountability, “I would probably be doing the same stupid things, blaming other people for the same reasons why I’m in that situation every day.”
In addition to answering Shay’s questions about the affair, Davies issued a message to those criticising his wife’s decision to open up about the obstacles in their marriage.
“I apologize to you, my love. And for everybody else out there, you gotta back off, to be honest. I feel like there’s a lot of opinions that get thrown around and all we need to do is look in a mirror, OK? I’m a hypocrite. People are hypocrites sometimes,” he fired back. “I will fight for my wife until the end of the day. So if anyone has a problem with this affair, they shouldn’t be coming and attacking her. They should be coming to me.”
Davies also slammed the “burden” an affair puts on the women involved, adding, “Like, if you stay with me, you have no self worth. If you leave, you can’t keep a man. Then there’s the other woman. If there’s another woman, she’s a homewrecker. It’s ridiculous. Honestly, f*** you guys for coming at my wife like that. I’m the one that betrayed her and you’re going to judge her. … I have a problem with that because reality is, I’m the problem here. She’s just telling her story and you guys want to hear her story.”
Keep scrolling for Davies’ candid revelations about his infidelity:
Why Did Brock Do It?
“This is not an excuse. I want to give more context because through learning and developing and working on myself, there’s definitely a part of me that fundamentally is a core of me. It’s how I developed from my 20s, from my 30s and it was from my youth,” Davies explained. “Without making it an excuse, in 12 years of my education, I ended up going to 15 different schools. It really created this drive for achievement, this urge to kind of find my value in achieving things and things that I did.”
Davies said the instability “created this egomaniac” in him.
“I needed to find my value in my achievements. I detached from a lot of my emotions easily. I minimized a lot of my destructive qualities. I just shrugged off the consequences,” he noted. “Looking back on that now, I can understand where there’s a serious problem there. It wasn’t until I was open to learning more about that where I realized I am a part of this problem. I can change it.”
What Was the Extent of the Affair — And How Did It End?
“It was a sexual affair. There was no dating. There was no courting. It was just purely that meetup and then we had sex. It happened multiple times over a three week span,” Davies recalled. “I felt horrible about it. I was like, ‘This is not OK. I’m not doing this.’ I pulled the pin and then I forgot about it. I compartmentalized it. I put it back there and I forgot about it.”
Why Did He Wait to Tell Scheana?
According to Davies, he was able to forget about his indiscretion until a year later.
“I was just protecting myself. I was an absolute coward. I wasn’t thinking about protecting you. I was just thinking about protecting himself and saving his face. Going back to what I was doing, I would just minimize my actions and compartmentalize it and put it in a box,” he said. “But in this situation, I wrote it in a letter and then tried to forget about it. I believe that I was never going to do it again and we could just move past this. I was just saving face. At the end of the day, it was selfish. It was a self-preservation tactic.”
Shay asked Davies whether some of the sweet things he did for her during her pregnancy reflected his guilt about the affair, to which he replied, “Once I made the decision to move on from that, I didn’t think of it. We were golden. It wasn’t until post-baby that I ran into friends of mine. And I was like, ‘Damn, this is wild. I’m going to lose everything.’ That didn’t change who I was with you.”
What Role Did Scandoval Play in Brock Coming Clean?
Davies told Shay about his mistake after Tom Sandoval was exposed for cheating on Ariana Madix with their costar Rachel “Raquel” Leviss, but the Vanderpump Rules scandal was “fire on the flame.” Other factors, however, pushed Davies to come forward.
“The pressure I felt from being in San Diego and writing that letter [caused it],” he added. “I remember I wrote the letter and just carried it with me. Every day it just got bigger and bigger and bigger.”
Did Brock Get Emotional at Their Wedding Out of Guilt?
“That was the happiest day of my life, honey. It’s a psychotic part of me where I had that ability to just forget it. I just moved on with my life until the damage that came back up from it popped back up,” he told Shay. “I remember our wedding and the words coming out were just pure emotion.”
Davies continued: “If anyone wants to look at my brain scan, there is evidence that I don’t do too much other thinking except for emotion. I’m very emotional with things. It’s interesting because I don’t have that depth of emotion but I have emotion. So no, I generally was just in love with that day.”
Did Brock Have Concerns About Scheana Sharing This Publicly?
Davies made it clear that his mistake was Shay’s “story to tell” if she chose to, adding, “There was a version of me trying to minimize that and protect our relationship, I support you. I read it once you’ve written your book because I didn’t want to have any influence on it. It’s not about the book per se — I’d rather just talk about and take accountability for my actions that are in the book.”
What Lessons Did Brock Learn From This?
“I’ve learned two lessons. One was from my now-wife. Then recently, I learned another lesson from my ex. In a relationship, when one needs space, they don’t need to ask for it. You should just give them space. Then when they need your support, you step in,” he noted. “It is also about admitting when you have done someone wrong. When you have an ego is a problem. I’m the problem and I take care of that.”
Davies went on to make a promise to Shay on the air.
“I will keep showing up. I will keep doing the work. I will continue to be honest and build a foundation for our family of honesty. I want to be a living example of what a man can be after he shows his worst parts of himself,” he added. ”That’s what I want to be for you, for Summer and for my older two kids. Also for anybody else out there who has made mistakes.”
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