A mom was witness to the moment her daughter’s fine manners came back to bite her in the most-unexpected way.
Brenda Iseghoede from the U.K. has always encouraged her 4-year-old daughter Rayna to remember her pleases and thank-yous. “I remind her all the time that we are a polite family and we need to consider others’ feelings while we speak to them,” Iseghoede told Newsweek.
That is something to be encouraged. Joseph Shrand, MD, instructor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, believes manners hold the key to helping de-escalate tense situations in our day-to-day lives.
“When one person is rude to another, the other person often responds in kind,” Shrand told Forbes. “When is the last time you got angry at someone treating you with respect?”
Rayna is certainly well-drilled when it comes to minding her manners, as Iseghoede discovered during a moment caught on camera and later shared to her TikTok @raynaandaidensworld.
“I was just trying to film an unboxing video for the presents her brother got over the weekend from his birthday,” Iseghoede said.
What she ended up filming, instead, however, was an amusing exchange between mother and daughter that showed just how much Rayna had taken what Iseghoede taught her about manners to heart.
“Rayna, stand up,” Iseghoede can be heard saying on the video. “If you say please,” her daughter replies. “What?” Iseghoede says. “Please,” Rayna responds.
“Please what?” Iseghoede asks. “Please, Rayna, can you stand up?” her daughter says. “You have to add some please with it. We are a polite family. You forgot?”
Iseghoede finally gets the message. “Please stand up,” she says, with Rayna happily complying. “I guess she was asking me to lead by example,” Iseghoede said.
The video, posted with the on-screen caption: “POV [point of view] good parenting comes back to bite you in the behind,” went viral with close to 940,000 views already.
The interaction struck a chord with some viewers. A fellow mom commented: “My daughter does this to me always. ‘You have to talk to me nicely’ ‘you have to say please’ ‘go back and knock on the door, until I answer before you come in.'”
Another wrote: “My daughter and I were having a pretend tea party. she hands me my cup of tea and I go to pretend to drink it and she stops me and says ah ah what do you say? I said emm thank you? and she said good girl.”
Not all of the responses have been entirely positive, but Iseghoede was proud of how her young daughter reacted.
“I was super proud; that meant that she was learning from me,” she said. “Some people may have seen it as her questioning my authority, but I don’t think that was wrong; she is mirroring a good character from her mum and dad, and I will always applaud that.”
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