A Reddit thread asking “Ladies of Reddit, what do you really want for Valentine’s Day?” has led to a wide-ranging discussion about romance, effort and, in some cases, simply a little peace and quiet.
The post, shared by user work8585, invited women to weigh in with their honest wishes ahead of February 14. Responses ranged from sentimental gestures to practical comforts, with many commenters saying that the thought behind the gift matters more than the price tag.
While traditional staples like flowers and chocolate were mentioned, many women said they are hoping for something more intentional this year—whether that’s a planned evening, a handwritten note or time to themselves.
Planning and Effort
In one section of the thread, several replies focused on the emotional side of the holiday.
One Reddit user reflected on a past Valentine’s tradition, writing: “My late husband used to write poetry for me. It was corny, hilarious, and mushy… It was perfect.”
Another kept things simple: “Card, flowers, romance. We plan to stay home that night and cook dinner together.”
For some mothers, the ideal gift looks different.
One commenter wrote: “I want my husband to spoil our daughter (she’s eight months). Start the tradition of spoiling her young so she doesn’t tolerate anything less when she gets older. The gift in that for me: they go out of the house for a fun activity, and I get a few hours home alone to rot.”
Across dozens of replies, a common theme emerged: planning and effort. Several users said they want their partners to take initiative—organize the evening, arrange childcare or plan an activity—rather than asking what to do at the last minute.
Others said a “princess treatment” day, a break from responsibilities or simply uninterrupted sleep would be more meaningful than an expensive present.
For those looking for tangible gifts that still feel thoughtful, commenters and shoppers alike are gravitating toward items that blend meaning with practicality.
Here were some of their recommendations.
Fake Flowers, Real Love
Artificial flower alternatives such as LEGO roses offer a playful twist on a classic bouquet and double as decor long after the holiday ends.
Warm the Heart
Cozy staples like a cashmere winter scarf or alpaca socks reflect the comfort-focused requests seen throughout the thread.
The Way to the Heart is Through the Stomach
Edible favorites including dark chocolate remain popular for those sticking with tradition.
A Girl’s Best Friend…
Jewelry also appeared in gift suggestions with options such as stacking rings offering a customizable approach.
Everyday Extravagance
Practical splurges like a bread maker align with comments from users who said they value gifts that make everyday life easier.
If the Reddit thread is any indication, the most appreciated Valentine’s Day gifts may not be extravagant at all.
For many women in the discussion, the real request was simple: show up, make an effort and make the day feel intentional.
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