A Gen Z bride-to-be has been cheered for standing her ground after asking her brother’s girlfriend to limit her crocheting during a bachelorette party weekend.
The 28-year-old woman, who goes by u/plane-presence9361 on Reddit, took to the platform on March 1 to share her frustration, sparking a heated discussion among viewers online that has since garnered over 8,000 upvotes.
“I’m getting married this year (yay!) and went on my bachelorette party trip last weekend,” the woman said in the post.
The weekend getaway was set in a cabin-style house with a mix of bridesmaids and other friends, including her brother’s girlfriend, who is 36. The girlfriend was not originally invited due to the short span of her relationship with the bride’s brother, but was included as a favor. The bride explained that her brother had asked her to invite his girlfriend, saying that she had never been to a bachelorette party before and probably never would.
However, the trip took an awkward turn when the girlfriend insisted on crocheting a large throw blanket—complete with multiple balls of yarn—throughout the weekend’s activities.
Despite the overwhelming support for the woman’s stance on Reddit, Patricia Bathurst, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in California, suggested that the girlfriend’s behavior could be justified.
“There are many reasons why the brother’s girlfriend could have spent her time crocheting instead of participating in the bachelorette trip,” Bathurst told Newsweek. “Perhaps she felt that she had to come. Also, things like obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) or social anxiety can make a person do things like this.”
The bride continued that the girlfriend was seen crocheting during brunch, a museum tour, wine tastings, and even during bridal party games.
“I just thought it was super rude to crochet such a big project during group activities,” the woman said, adding that the girlfriend described the party as a “basic b**** bachelorette” and admitted she found the activities boring.
Despite the awkwardness, the bride emphasized that she tried to be accommodating.
“We gave her the option to stay home. I told her I wouldn’t be offended if this trip wasn’t her style and she wanted to spend it crocheting. But she insisted on coming out with us to every single event,” she said. “I just thought it was super rude to crochet such a big project during group activities.”
The bride’s request was simple: save the crocheting for after the scheduled activities, particularly when the group was out and about.
“I just asked her to save the crocheting for at night after the activities,” she said.
The aftermath has left the bride in a dilemma. Her brother has been urging her to apologize, saying that his girlfriend’s trip was “ruined” by the restrictions. The bride, however, is not backing down.
“I personally don’t feel like I should, because she shouldn’t have come to a bachelorette party if she didn’t want to do bachelorette-y things!” she said.
The post quickly attracted a flood of responses, with many backing the bride’s stance.
“Share all of this with your brother, if you haven’t already,” one viewer said. “And do not apologize.”
Another added: “She’s got absolutely no manners and is impossible to please. Honestly—tell your brother and definitely don’t apologize. She’s just classless. You don’t invite yourself to something and then make fun of it.”
Bathurst advised that the bride have an honest conversation with her brother about her feelings.
“I think it’s essential that the woman talk to her brother about her feelings since he insisted that his girlfriend be included. Be honest with him, both about what happened and the bride’s feelings,” she said.
As the debate rages on, the bride remains uncertain about whether to offer an apology or stand by her decision. For now, she seems resolved, summing up her thoughts with a sentiment that many of her supporters echoed: “She literally brought her blanket to a museum and crocheted during a private tour!”
Newsweek reached out to u/plane-presence9361 for more information via Reddit.
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